Weight Loss Client
Ruth came to me for weight loss coaching and through our first session it became evident that Ruth was a compulsive overeater with very little self esteem and confidence. Ruth was constantly critical of herself in almost every aspect of her life, it was no wonder she was turning to food as a comforter.
Ruth has tried, like most, almost every diet under the sun from the grapefruit diet, to a range of combination food diets through to calorie counting diets. Despite trying them all she always fell off them a few weeks after starting them, she would regain the weight plus more and berate herself for it.
One of the most important things in coaching is goal setting and it was clear that Ruth had continuously given herself unattainable goals of drastic weight loss which made her feel as though she was constantly reaching for something that was too far away. We set up realistic and achievable goals according to the amount of weight she wished to lose which automatically made her feel calmer about attaining her goal.
I have worked with Ruth on her self perception, confidence and how her limiting beliefs and negative self talk and use of language work against her and we created new positive empowering beliefs.
Ruth started her coaching sessions as a person who hated any type of exercise so we worked on the way she viewed exercise and turned this from a negative ‘chore’ to something that is going to help her to get her goal. Now her motivation has improved and she regularly enjoys various forms of exercise.
I continue to work with Ruth on her relationship with food and emotional comfort eating and how to deal with this. Ruth is recognising how her relationship with herself can work against her and is working on turning this around; she has stopped berating herself which means that she can now just allow herself to get on with her goal of losing the weight. Sure there is the odd occasion when she needs to comfort herself a little but she now recognises when she is doing this and can deal with what is bothering her which means that she naturally doesn’t give herself more food than she needs to now.
Ruth is finding my support as her personal weight loss coach and the coaching process invaluable to her and is on track to achieving her weight loss target.
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Time Management Client
Nina, a Teaching Assistant came to me at a point in her life where everything felt upside down for her. A single parent, Nina and her two children had been living for the past several months in small temporary rented accommodation after severe flood damage to their home. She felt helpless and as though she didn’t know where to begin with all the paperwork and practicalities of dealing with the insurance company, builders and contractors and having to buy new replacement items such as a new kitchen, furniture, computer, CDs, toys etc.
I worked with Nina on achieving her most basic need, which was to get her into a position where she and her children could get back into their own home as quick as possible. When we started our sessions Nina could not face the mountains of paperwork and forms needed in order to get the situation moving along more quickly; she was disheartened by all the things that were lost from the flood damage and always felt as though she had no time to do any of the things that were needed.
Our sessions focused on improving Nina’s organisation skills and by the end of our sessions she could see light at the end of the tunnel and had a date where she could move back into her home with her children.
Our sessions also worked on improving Nina’s leisure time which is so important for any parent to get. One of the things that Nina achieved was getting her daughter sleeping in her own bed after some 8 years! Nina now enjoys her evenings doing her reading, mediation and yoga leaving her fresh and revived for the every challenges of life.
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Time Management / Career & Relationship Client
Mary came to me with time management issues and wanting to change her job. We had a total of six hour long sessions and very early on in the sessions we agreed a task for Mary to speak with her boss about certain concerns regarding her job, workplace, pay and hours. Mary had been avoiding having this conversation believing that her boss would be unreceptive but she was pleasantly surprised when the conversation opened up positive communications. The issues regarding pay were rectified, Mary opted out of rotational weekend on-calls (a work pattern that was making her feel stressed) and her ideas for the Vet Practice were well received. She was pleased with the outcome and decided to stay in her job for the foreseeable future.
Mary had an incredibly busy life working full time as a Vet and having committed to lots of evening and weekend charity work meaning that she literally had no time to herself. She also had feelings of guilt when giving herself any ‘relaxation/leisure’ time. We worked through these issues of guilt and worked on improving her self confidence through belief change work and creating positive affirmations.
Through our sessions it became apparent that Mary had purposely made her life so busy with charitable work so as to avoid going out socially yet felt that something missing from her life; an intimate relationship. It transpired that it had been 7 years since Mary had broken up with her then fiancé and she was terrified of loving and being hurt again. Mary had created a belief that she would be hurt again; this belief was affecting her life. We worked on her beliefs in this area and some months after our sessions had ended I received an email out of the blue from Mary telling me about how she had met someone not long after our last session, they were in love and were engaged to be married in South Africa on a date to be arranged for the following year!
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Self Confidence / Esteem / Relationships Client
Sally came to me wanting to improve her self confidence which was prohibiting her from expressing herself in social situations and in family relationships. In particular Sally wanted to improve her relationship with her younger son. She had been through a bereavement some years earlier and since then had become a lot quieter and less vocal in expressing her opinion. She rarely went out because she thought she had little to say that was of value in conversations. She felt she had very low self esteem and that her opinion may be ridiculed and unimportant anyway. She was a self employed gardener who had not put her prices up for the past few years, too afraid that her clients would drop her for somebody cheaper.
We first worked on Sally’s relationship with her son which was very important to her. Sally was worried about him coming back home to stay after university as she felt they had become somewhat detached from each other.
We also worked on improving her assertiveness as she felt she could never confront anyone when they had upset her, in particular her sister. Whenever she felt her sister had upset her she would pretend she was fine and mull over things in her own mind again and again, feeling more and more frustrated the more she thought about it.
By the end of our sessions Sally realised that she had spent a lot of time mind-reading people often wrongly, which had then led to undesired outcomes such as feeling of frustration or resentment. She had worked successfully on improving her communications with her sister and son and increased her gardening prices without losing any clients! Towards the end of our sessions Sally’s tone of voice had changed to a more positive and upbeat one.
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Self Confidence / Esteem NLP Client
Paola came to see me wanting to increase her self esteem and confidence. We had a total of 6 sessions and worked together using NLP interventions along with some coaching. Paola is in her early 70’s and was fed up with her negative self talk / beliefs which had snowballed over the years. We worked through various scenarios in which she used to feel uncomfortable about speaking her mind and using NLP interventions and creating positive relaxing anchors she now feels more confident and comfortable about discussing her thoughts/feelings without berating herself afterwards (which was something she always did before). By the end of our sessions Paola had taken up charity work to help her interact with people and is now taking up social opportunities (something she said she never would have done prior to our sessions). Altogether Paula had a positive experience from our NLP coaching sessions and is now enjoying feeling more comfortable in her own skin.
Contact me on 01932 429166, email me at susan@definitivesuccess.co.uk to book your session.
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